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If a child insults, humiliates and constantly persecutes another repeatedly over time, and he cries or complains, we know that there is a case of bullying or bullying. But what happens when the signals are more subtle? When both the bully and the bullied show apparently normality to the rest of the class? It happens that bullying, silent and terribly clever, settles in the protagonists without anyone being able to perceive anything.
However, there is another communication that is much more truthful, but at the same time elusive: non-verbal communication. If we observe more carefully, we will be able to perceive things that escape our senses. We explain how to detect bullying through non-verbal communication in children.
It is easy to detect a case of bullying when we talk about constant fights, screaming and scratching, threats based on insults ... But, What if there are no screams, no punches, no ugly words that we can see or hear? What happens when bullying is silent and slowly poisons the victim? What if the victim is unable to say anything? What if it is totally blocked? He says it, yes, but not in words. With gestures.
We explain what signals activate the alert button in the event of bullying. Learn to interpret all these signs to detect bullying early:
1. Talk less.If your son suddenly decides not to tell anything at all, if he stops telling you how he did in school, or what happened in class, there is something he is trying to hide. Something he doesn't want you to know. Or something he's afraid to tell.
2. He has become more introverted.Now it is more difficult for him to communicate with others and express his emotions. This is a consequence of the loss of self-esteem and self-confidence that a case of bullying generates.
3. Stop hanging out with friends.He prefers to stay home. Now it is harder for him to open up to the outside world. You feel that at home you are protected.
4. You are more sensitive.Cry more or get angry more easily. And you can even detect a slight apathy or depression. He no longer smiles like he used to, they don't thank him for the same jokes. It is harder for him to think positive ...
5. Eat less.Loss of appetite is a physical response to certain moods related to anguish, sadness ... One of the physical signs of bullying (obviously, along with scratches or a blow that has received) is weight loss.
6. You notice him disappointed.Suddenly your son, who loved to play football on weekends and go to the movies every now and then, seems like he no longer has the same interests. Everything seems to give the same. And he just 'gets carried away'.
7. Get worse grades.Harassment often takes a toll on the victim, causing his terrible anguish to make him neglect his studies.
8. You do not take care of your physical appearance.Maybe because you try to go unnoticed, you no longer spend the time that you used to spend grooming each day. And you can even neglect hygiene.
9. Anxiety attacks.Bullying generates in the child a terrible anxiety that can manifest itself through small details or explode in an anxiety attack (difficulty breathing, racing heart ...). However, anxiety can also appear less visibly. For example, your child may have more trouble sleeping, may have more nightmares, dizziness, headaches ...
10. More aggressiveness.Not all victims of bullying lock themselves home in a bubble. Some children become more violent at home, in a desperate attempt to draw attention to a problem that they are unable to explain through words.
To be aware of all these signs, there is no other than to observe, understand and attend. Or put another way: get as much juice as possible from the wonderful gift of empathy and try to dress ourselves with its skin. But first, in order to 'see' these sudden changes in the child, it is essential to know him. If you don't know what your child really is like, you won't be able to see the changes in him.
Among bullies, signals sometimes also appear through non-verbal communication. It is important to detect all these signs early. Bullying is like that virus that is 'incubating', until suddenly it appears, without more, in an explosive and devastating way. If we can stop the 'virus' in time, the damage will be less.
A bullying child may appear more or less 'normal' to his teachers, but details like these are observed:
- The look.Do not always insult with the word. Some bullies know very well how to use an aggressive, defiant and arrogant look that intimidates the bullied child.
- Isolation.Some bullies seek isolation from the bullied child. They are true strategists. They seek the complicity of the rest of the children so that they take their side and leave the bullied child alone.
- Telephone and social networks.When bullying comes through new technologies, teachers have more trouble detecting it.
- Approval of the harassing behaviors of others.The simple fact of siding with those who bully makes a child an accomplice, another bully.
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