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That the children are the funny ones of the group is not bad, far from it. There are children with a great sense of humor, very smiling, who like to make jokes and amuse others.
The problem comes when the child through these behaviors he seeks to attract attention or have the leading role. They are the children who want to make others laugh at all costs, and they don't even mind making a fool of themselves. This is what is behind the children who are funny within the group.
It is difficult to draw the line that separates a natural behavior that is part of the child's personality, and one that is not so much. That line may be marked by the situations in which these behaviors occur, and the way in which they occur.
When they are disruptive, when they are not appropriate to the situation in which they occur, (in the middle of a class for example), then we can say that the child you are looking for something more than just having fun or expressing your way of being.
These behaviors may hide something else, such as need to be accepted in the group or divert attention from a problem or difficulty. There is no specific profile of children who seek to be the funny ones in the group, nor established criteria, but in general they can be:
- Children seeking acceptance from others, (due to complexes, low self-esteem, poor social skills) who do not know how to make other children "like" them, and for this, they can behave in a histrionic way, always playing jokes, playing the clown because they see that they like that Other children.
- Children with a school or learning problem, (children who find it difficult to learn, for example) and seek in those calls for attention to hide those difficulties. It must be borne in mind that in these children, these behaviors hide something more emotional, and we must take it into account. If you can't draw attention to academic achievement, I'll call it out for being fun, and secretly there are tasks that cost me more.
- Children who are going through changes in their life, and this way of acting is a way of drawing attention or releasing tension.
Or simply, they are children who need to attract attention because they are used to being it always.
In general, whatever the motive behind these behaviors, the ultimate goal is to attract attention and a need to be taken into account. Depending on the child, it will be necessary to delve into those underlying motives, attend to them and work in a double way, the cause of these behaviors, and on the other hand, mark limits to those behaviors.
In the first place, it is important to identify when these behaviors occur (in class, with other children, in front of other adults), and so we can know if it is due to insecurity, the need to be accepted, hide a problem or be the center of attention.
You have to know how to put limits on these behaviors, and how to do it is important.
- We must make it clear to them that being funny and funny is not something bad or negative, and that we like them to be like that, but they have to know when is the time to be. It is not about making behavior ugly but about teaching them when the time is right.
- You have to find the middle ground between ignoring him all the time and paying attention to him continuously. It will be necessary to ignore in its fair measure when the behavior is not appropriate, that is, I can listen to him but to tell him that it is not the time to play a joke, or tell him that he does not thank me, that is, not scold them but correct them.
- It is important reinforce their positive qualities and make the child see them. Many times behind these behaviors there is a lack of self-esteem or self-confidence.
- If the jokes sometimes border on disrespect for other peopleThis behavior must be corrected, making the child see how the other person may feel, helping him to put himself in the other person's place.
Therefore, for the child to be funny, funny and make others laugh, it is not bad nor should they be prevented from being so, but on those occasions when these behaviors are out of place, it will be important, on the one hand, to think about what could be behind it, and on the other hand, put limits on those behaviors.
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